Recycling

 "Once again You (God) will have compassion on us. You will trample our sins under Your feet and throw them into the depths of the ocean! You will show us Your faithfulness and unfailing love as You promised to our ancestors Abraham and Jacob long ago." Micah 7:19-20

  It's early. The sun hasn't cleared the horizon yet. 

  I've ended up dealing with a second round of shingles. It flared up almost a month to the day after the first round. It's on the opposite side of the same arm that had it before. It's been far itchier and more painful than the last bout. That's what woke me. 

  It's unusual to say the least and a bit disconcerting. I will do some follow up with my family doctor to make sure it isn't just stress related. It might signify underlying, undiagnosed health issues. Which in and of itself is stressful.

  I tried to go back to sleep but the ole brain decided chasing squirrels was more fun. Sheesh!

  They aren't pretty or cute or cuddly squirrels. They are mangy, flea bitten, half blind and noisy; chattering away about things I'd much rather forget.

  But sometimes these ugly rodents are an opportunity because they speak to the problems I may be ignoring or wrestling with. Who better to take them to than my Lord? So this early morning becomes an opportunity instead of a frustrating time of sleep deprivation.

  Lord? I trust You can translate squirrel chatter.

  I guess the biggest struggle is knowing what to do next in regards to the recent correspondence with my mom. She responded exactly how I thought she might. Not unkindly. Not defensively but she is either unable to or incapable of admitting someone else might be right. It's rather sad. 

  Nevertheless, I will never forget how Allan held his children's hands as he lay in the bed with his eyes closed but when my mom tried to hold his hand, he pulled it away. At least in the beginning. As the life faded from his body, he stopped reacting to any outside stimuli. It's heartbreaking, really, this silent testimony of how things actually were, unbeknownst to me until then.

  

  Lord? This brief moment, those few seconds in the passage of time, has seared itself into my heart. I think I understand why.

  It changed me from being someone who justified or made excuses for how mom treated not just myself, but others. It was the moment I could no longer continuing to believe it was always my mis-understanding, mis-remembering, mis-everything. Or that I had some sort of fatal flaw that meant I had to accept such things...

  Oh...

  Now I understand why this is such a key memory. Maybe now I can finally lay it to rest and only remember the soft, warm hand of a man who loved me without words.

  It was the moment the scapegoat in me died.

  Allan, thank you for that. 

  Lord? Thank You as well, for delivering me from evil.

  It doesn't mean I am not grieving this morning. You see, the scapegoat persona is a vulnerable one. It means rejection is normalized. Abuse is normalized. Abandonment is normalized and a whole slew of other toxic behaviors are normalized. You believe it is okay for these things to be done to you because you are taught to believe you are inherently less than...flawed beyond being worthy of unconditional love or kindness or care.

  And the predators who seek out the such people keep coming to reinforce the scapegoat persona who, in the end, is really a mangy, flea bitten squirrel who won't shut up.

  But that was then. This is now.

  Praise God, it is now! 

  

  Lord? Help me forgive those who need forgiving. In Jesus' name.

  AMEN!